Love. Everybody experienced it. Love here refers to infatuation and affection towards someone. Again, we as in this teenage phase, we easily adore people. Sometimes, we can fall in love just in a first sight. We are helplessly immobilized by that person in spite of who he or she is, what he or she has done. For others, they can be so vigilant and introvert. They will scrutinize and learn to know that person more before they open up and be comfortable with them.
Personally, I've been in a few relationships. I am so envious towards the couple who can stay together for a very long time or even forever! D'oh! They are each other's first and that's it they sustain in the relationship. I will just assume half of us have been through or are in a relationship. I know it's the best thing that can ever happened to us. We just wake up everyday and check our phone straight on for good morning texts and we go to bed every night smiling, imagining how our crush will look if they really say those lines to you. We sleep, looking forward to waking up and spending another day with them.
In a relationship, of course there will be frictions and arguments. It is common. Relationship is about two people putting effort in knowing each other, sharing everything and consoling. It is obvious an argument might happen one day. To better or worse. We didn't choose them for nothing, and so as they don't accept our love for nothing. They don't take us for granted, vice versa. Think about this; Why would they go through everything just to be with you? How much has he/she sacrifice for you? How happy are you when you're together? Cherish!
"Hell comes when the devil inside us thought that it can conquer everything."
Whatever happened, how bad it is. Just work it out together. You choose to be together, you face everything together and by that you to can get closer. Never suggest a breakup! Trust me, love is the only thing that is worth fighting till the end.
We just can't imagine the day of separation. One day nothing seems wrong and nothing bad happened. The next day everything can just tip and both of us can end up crying. The day when both of us are not together anymore. Everything changes. The texts, the smiles for you, the way she look at you. Nothing is the same anymore.
When things like that happen, then PLEASE don't act like it's the end of the world. (I did not only once). It was 3 years ago, I was in a relationship. Everything when smooth, we had ups and downs. We did fight, rant, rave however we always managed to get everything fine in the end. I would describe her as joyful, smart, winsome errrr she is that lively person up till now I believe.
I don't really comprehend what happened. Something bad spread. One things led to another, one misunderstanding and another. It just requires one bluff and make it cohere with the truth to make people believe everything.
Hence, we segregated.
I would say that it was one of the most despair moments in my life. The bewailing lasted for a week.
My friends had no idea how to cheer me up. I was a soulless body. Nonetheless, I gradually accepted everything. I learn to find the silver lining in every clouds. I observed every events in a different point of view. Things are just moving in a flow. As I'm saying flow, it means there are the joys and tears, beginning and end, climax and anti-climax, complication and resolution. Life is playing rhythm, it is called problems. We have to learn to dance with the rhythm or we can keep on complaining about how bad the music was.
I came to a realization, every problems that come to our life mold us to a better person. To a more mature stage. And as I went through hellos and goodbyes in friendship and relationship; I flourished. We don't solely get matured on living more days in this life, but also by solving problems, raising after being trampled behind, laughing after crying.
Love is not that simple, most of the times we are too naive, we thought that we know what we're dealing with. Now I really learn my lessons. For the coming lessons, I just don't want to involve in hurting people anymore especially those I care for, the one I love. :)
I am dealing with many problems currently, I fell, I rued, I cried. Problems are coming like storms. I am so grateful that someone reminded me that it can't rain forever. The storms will fade eventually, but as long as it still pours, don't get carried away with it. Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain! (Sounds sexy, doesn't it?) haha…
---Gio
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